October 20th, 2009 How to Win Your Ex Back - 3 Behavior Patterns You Must Avoid
This is a dangerous time if you have just split up and are thinking how to win your ex back. Your actions in the next few days or weeks could rekindle the passion or kill it stone dead. Don’t jeopardize your chances of making up by doing the wrong things.
Here is a list of 3 things to avoid:
1. Don’t call them. Contact in the initial period after a split is a huge no-no in the making up process. Constantly hassling your ex with phone calls all day long will only push them further away. You don’t really want to do this.
Think how they will feel when the phone rings. They will always think it is you and they will remember some of the more negative aspects of your relationship. There are ups and downs in relationships, but you don’t want to remind your ex of the downs.
2. Don’t be clingy and needy. Nothing will turn things sour quicker then a needy ex, constantly demanding attention. Don’t make it worse. If you start to act like this then you are not doing yourself any favors.
An appearance of being able to take it all in your stride will have a good effect on your ex. They will think you are great for handling things well and they will be attracted to you. This behavior will make them doubt that splitting up is a good idea. Even if you feel terrible you should LOOK confident to your ex.
3. Don’t beg them to come back. This is sometimes the last resort after a few other methods have been tried. It seems like a natural thing. We see it in the movies all the time. However, in this situation you will seem like you are having trouble holding on to things. Hold your chin up and look tall and your ex will be more attracted to you.
The above list of behaviors should be avoided at all costs. If you have done any then stop now and look to the future. Now is the time to make a plan to follow to get your partner back.
You can learn how to win your ex back. You can do everything you want if you plan. Get yourself a program and follow it. Do not allow your emotions dictate your actions. That is how to win back your ex.
