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When it comes to a toxic relationship, your mind might have an angel on one side telling you to stay away from your ex, while that little devil on the other side wants to keep a close watch on his whereabouts. Ultimately, you know what the right choice is. Toxic relationships are not just bad, but in some instances can be poisonous. Dealing with them and moving on can be very difficult and even heartwrenching, but it really can be done.

Sure, you can opt for deprecating humor and visit www.mybreakupspace.com (think take-off on MySpace) or google “how to get revenge” all day long. Did you know you can even get your very own free blog space to rant and rave about what a jerk he is at www.mybreakupblog.com? Yeah, maybe if you’re feeling really emotional one day, the break up blog is a good way to vent. But let’s face reality these tactics are just temporary stress toys to bite down on while you deal with your feelings. So what should you do?

Cry. Yes, let those tears come out. But, never cry alone in your room. Go out and see a movie. When the sad part sets in, cry… cry as hard as you can. It’s also better if a friend or two can come with you, so you won’t look like a weirdo at the cinema.

Never call him. Keep in mind that, this relationship was toxic. As much as you may yearn to hear his voice, think of the phone as a transmitter for those poisonous relationship toxins to seep back into your system. The longer you can go without dialing him up or seeing him face-to-face, the stronger you will grow.

List the good things and the bad things about the relationship, then compare. If your relationship is toxic, you definitely will have a long list of bad things, enough to convince you to really end the relationship with him and move on.

Find a sports or any activity for your pent-up energy. Let the stress off your body and do something that’s meaningful for you. Play tennis, learn photography, etc. These activities will make your mind wander about something else and also will let the creativity out in you. Once you’ve done it, you’ll be able to have a much clearer mind and better point of view.

Babble things out with your friends of any family member who knows about your relationship. They will surely listen to anything you want to say and might give you some pointers, especially those who have been through toxic relationships as well.

Breakup happen to all of us, but they are optional. If you think you can patch the things up with your boyfriend then do something to work the relationship out. Compromise, but do not sell yourself short. Remember, it’s normal to feel bad, annoyed, and even angry when ending toxic relationships… but beating yourself up is too much. If you feel that it won’t really work out, then move on and deal with spending your life without your ex. You can always keep on dating, after all.

Candice Garcia answered the question about getting over toxic relationships. You can find more articles on her relationship blog at http://getexbackmagic.com.

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