March 11th, 2010

 How to Get a Second Date


Does the thought of your first date intimidate you? Do you stand staring at your wardrobe wondering what to wear or what he would like to see you wear? Are you concerned about how your hair looks, or that your shoes are mismatched, or that your makeup in not up to your standards? It may be of comfort to you to know you are not alone in traveling through this situation.

First dates are like job interviews, for in both instances you’re trying to make yourself look as good as possible so you don’t end up ruining things. There are times when all you can think about is what he is thinking about. Is he impressed? Is he thinking of not calling you on a second date? Is he regretting this date?

It does not have to be so stressful. The sole reason for a date is to meet and get to know a man. Of course, you shouldn’t give any thought at all as to whether this is the man you will marry some day. Here are few things you could follow to have an enjoyable evening.

As you get dressed, don’t decide based only on what you think he’d like you to look like. Think about the type of place you will be visiting and pick out something appropriate for that. Wear something comfortable yet classy and not something that you cannot carry well. Don’t let yourself fidget and fix yourself every moment; curb the restless energy.

Be yourself, but, not too much. It is usually good to be original no matter where you end up because you will be respected, however, this is not what should be don on the first date. Don’t feel the need to expose everything about yourself, especially your innermost quirks and foibles, during your first meeting. At the same time, make sure you do not lie and mislead him.

Talk about everyday issues, his likes, his dislikes, etc. to get to know your date better. When he asks you something about yourself, be honest and open. If your date is divorced or has other personal problems, it is a good idea not to ask too many personal questions the first time you are out with them. That could make him feel as if there’s nowhere to go. Listening is also a very important aspect in a conversation. If you are the kind of person that only likes to speak a lot, you will need to make the effort needed to listen to what he wants to talk about also.

A first date, no matter how it turns out, is a unique event that can never be replicated and, if it turns out to be with your future mate, it’s the stuff of fairy tales. Your first date is always a momentous experience – something you’ll want to talk about with your friends, or even occasionally with the person you’re dating. It should not be similar to a job interview or a test. You should make sure you have fun, while focusing on the good things about the person you may decide you love as time passes on.

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