December 21st, 2009 Tips for Conversation on a First Date
Congratulations, you’ve finally attracted that beautiful woman and now you’re absolutely clueless on what to do next. Just getting eye contact isn’t enough to grab the girl of your dreams; first you’re going to have to talk to her.Starting a conversation is hard, especially on your first date, but hopefully this article will give you some conversation starters to use on that first date.
• There’s going to always be an elephant in the corner on your first date, so talk about that. The girl is going to be nervous no matter what because she has multiple things on her mind besides just the date and if she feels anxious because no one is talking, that’s a bad thing. If your conversation ever turns towards the worst, talk about it. Always bear in mind that silence during the date should be avoided. You might even find it funny and have a good laugh.
• It’s also probable that it won’t be you who will be starting the conversation. Women are pretty good in talking about themselves, so instead of trying to start multiple conversations, ask questions about what they’re saying. It accomplishes two things. First, it keeps a conversation going and takes up more time on the date and shows that you’re paying attention and listening. Not listening always turns a woman off. Don’t let your eyes glaze over.
• Sometimes, you will just have to accept that you’re going nowhere and cut your losses. Some girls just won’t be interested or may not find your style to be to their liking. There is no conversation starter that could sway a girl if she’s not interested. It’s not your fault; chances are the two of you are not really for each other. Move on and don’t cry about spilled milk. More than anything, moving on saves you the embarrassment, not to mention if you leave first, for it looks better than her leaving.
So to speak, it doesn’t really matter what you’re talking about, what you should try to do is just gear the conversations more towards her rather than yourself. Let her talk more than you, but don’t let it get too one-sided; otherwise, she might lose interest or feel embarrassed that she’s doing all of the talking. Just make sure you stay away from hot spot conversations such as politics or personal beliefs. It’s okay to be a little edgy, but it’s never a good idea to tread on toes the first time you meet a girl. With luck, you’ll be able to use the date conversation starters whenever you’re out with a girl or are just plain talking.
